Marriage Equality Flag

July 7, 2009

unequal pride flag

This flag’s been around for a while but was recently updated.

The stars are arranged by the date of the state’s entry into the Union and represent, of course, Connecticut, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, Vermont, Maine, and Iowa.

It’s a little depressing when put this way, isn’t it?

Via Box Turtle Bulletin.

Gov. Paterson Calls For Special Senate Session; Same-Sex Marriage Bill Left Out

June 21, 2009

The circus continues:

After two weeks of having no direct impact on the State Senate stalemate, Gov. David A. Paterson said on Sunday he would call the Senate to a special session this week, but would not include same-sex marriage among the bills to be considered, a move that stunned some of his key constituencies.


Mr. Paterson’s move does not doom same-sex marriage, but makes it much less likely to pass in the short-term. An aide to the governor said Mr. Paterson would still like to see the same-sex marriage bill come to a vote in the coming weeks, but Democratic leaders have resisted holding a vote unless it was assured of victory.

I really want all of these clowns voted out of office.


Dan Savage Proposes Civil Disobedience Alternative To Gay March On Washington

June 17, 2009

As you may know, Cleve Jones (AKA Emile Hirsch’s ‘character’ in Milk) has called for a gay March On Washington in October. Of course, the proposal spurred considerable debate and Cleve recently answered the criticism in a blog post on Bilerico.

dan SavageOver at Slog, however, Dan Savage (right) has proposed an action much smaller in scale but, he thinks, larger in impact:

Here’s the idea: one gay or lesbian couple—a couple currently denied their rights under DOMA—shows up at the entrance to the White House grounds. A different couple every day. They ask to speak to the president about DOMA. They’re refused. They sit down. They refuse to leave. They’re arrested, carried away by the police. Couples would be recruited from all over the country, demonstrating that gay marriage isn’t just an issue in liberal California or godless New England, and the media in each couple’s home city and state would be notified in advance of their arrest. The occasional famous couple—Rosie and Kelli? Ellen and Portia?—would participate to pull in celeb media. But most of the couples who come to D.C. to get arrested would be average folks. The couples would need support, legal and logistical, and we would need someone to organize media outreach and maintain a website. The website would include a photo and profile of each couple that comes to D.C. to get arrested, collect all the press, and be used to recruit couples willing to travel to D.C. and get arrested.

The action would be small scale—it would be human scale—and it would go on and on and on. It would demonstrate better than another gay march just how seriously we take this issue: we take it seriously that we’re willing to travel to D.C. and get arrested. It wouldn’t be a one-day event that the White House could ignore or bluff its way through with some lame statement about its “commitment” to ending DOMA. The couples would keep coming. Every day an arrest. Drip, drip, drip. Members of the White House press corps would see couples getting arrested every day on their way to work. Gibbs would be forced to address DOMA on a near-daily basis. The president would be asked about the issue again and again.

My boyfriend—who doesn’t do demonstrations (or interviews or photos or anything public)—is so upset about the DOMA brief that he’s willing to go to D.C. and get arrested. So am I. We can’t be the only couple that feels this way.

What do you think? One couple getting arrested every day for a year?

Although the mainstream media and the White House press corps has recently shown a surprising willingness to push the administration on LGBT promises made during the campaign, I’m not sure they could follow 365 days of two people being uneventfully arrested. I do, however, like the local media angle, which might be more valuable than the national media.

I also know that if I found myself in DC, I would sure as hell show up every morning to see the day’s arrest – and I bet I’m not the only one.

Oh Joy! A New GOP Hypocrisy Scandal! (Updated)

June 17, 2009

senator john ensignWith all the “Fuck You’s” the administration has been giving us (See: “Obama defends DOMA in federal court. Says banning gay marriage is good for the federal budget. Invokes incest and marrying children“; or “Obama Can Halt DADT Discharges With Executive Order (But Doesn’t)“; or “Hate Crimes Highest In Ten Years, Senate Pushes Vote Back Again“), it looks like Joe’s wish came true:

Sen. John Ensign acknowledged Tuesday that he had an affair with a campaign staffer — an admission that stunned his colleagues, hurt his chances for the 2012 Republican presidential nomination and called into question his future as a leader of the Senate GOP.

The Nevada Republican admitted in Las Vegas Tuesday that he had “violated the vows” of marriage by having an affair with a staffer. He did not identify the woman except to say that she and her husband were both “close friends” who worked for him, and that “the closeness” of their relationship had “put me in situations which led to my inappropriate behavior.”  (Politico)

I don’t think extramarital affairs – in and of themselves – are a big deal; I think monogamy is a goal not a guarantee. That all changes, of course, if you’re beating the “sanctity of marriage” drum to deny others basic rights.  (You see where this is going, right?)

In 2004, John “Sanctity Of Marriage Unless I’m Work Closely With Someone” Ensign issued this press release:

Senator John Ensign took to the floor of the United States Senate today to defend the sanctity of marriage and urge passage of the Federal Marriage Amendment Act.

“Marriage recognizes the ideal of a father and mother living together to raise their children,” Ensign said. “Marriage is the cornerstone on which our society was founded. For those who say that the Constitution is so sacred that we cannot or should not adopt the Federal Marriage Amendment, I would simply point out that marriage, and the sanctity of that institution, predates the American Constitution and the founding of our nation. Marriage, as a social institution, predates every other institution on which ordered society in America has relied.”

Ensign, in his comments, noted that Nevadans had amended the state constitution to guarantee the definition of marriage as between a man and a woman. Ensign emphasized the need to preserve the will of Nevadans who voted overwhelmingly to preserve marriage as well as the need to preserve the will of the majority of Americans.

“I am deeply concerned that a few unelected judges and some locally elected government officials have taken steps to redefine marriage to fit their own agenda,” said Ensign. “It is not right to mold marriage to fit the desires of a few, against the wishes of so many, and to ignore the important role of marriage.”  (Official Senate page via Joe.My.God.)

The FMA, as you recall, would have MODIFIED THE COUNTRY’S CONSTITUTION in order to ban gay marriage. Zealous much?

Ahh… there’s nothing like Republican hypocrisy to start your day out right.

PS: Ensign has three children.

Update (3:36 PM): Dan Savage: “Diddling underlings? When Bill Clinton did it, Ensign called on Clinton to resign, saying he had “no credibility left.” Humiliating public sex scandal? When Larry Craig got swept up on in one, Sen. Ensign called on Craig to resign, saying the scandal was “embarrassing.” Ensign even lead the GOP’s unsuccessful effort to drive Craig from office before his term expired. So will Ensign be stepping down now? Of course not. … Resigning in the wake of an embarrassing sex scandal? That’s for Democrats and fags.”

More: Short clips of FoxNews and Rachel Maddow covering the story after the jump.

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Marriage Equality Videos

May 31, 2009

Here are a couple videos put out by Keith Hartman (I have no idea who that is).  They hit on a similar theme – the selective use of Biblical scripture to further your cause – and do so pretty effectively.

Stay Positive, Gays

May 26, 2009

pride-california-flags1Dan Savage on the California Supreme Court’s decision to uphold Proposition 8:

This morning’s decision was expected but, in the wake of so many recent victories, still saddening. But we have to remember that this is a long game and, despite this setback, we are winning. We’re going to hear a lot about Prop 8 today, and the fight to overturn it, but let’s not forget about Prop 22.

In 2000 California voters approved a law banning same-sex marriage. It was a ballot initiative, like Prop 8, but just a law, not a constitutional amendment. And it was that law, Prop 22, that the CA Supremes struck down in 2008, in their historic ruling legalizing same-sex marriage. And voters in 2000 approved Prop 22 in by a nearly 22-point margin. And eight years later the same voters would approved Prop 8 by four points. That’s an 18-point shift in favor of marriage equality in just eight years. That’s extraordinary progress. A loss is still a loss, and a loss sucks, but the trend is so strongly in our favor that we cannot lose hope. The anti-gay bigots know that they’re losing this debate, and it’s why they’re so hot to amend state constitutions now, while they still can, while they can still count on the votes of the old, the bigoted, and the easily manipulated. But they are losing and they know it.

We’re going to go back to the ballot box in California in 2010 or 2012 and voters are going to repeal Prop 8. Fundamental civil rights should not be subject to a popular vote, of course, and the CA Supremes had an opportunity to reaffirm that ideal. They chose not to, they buckled, and so we, unlike other minority groups, face the challenge of securing our rights at the ballot box. That seems daunting prospect until you recall 2000’s Prop 22 and compare its margin of victory to that of 2008’s Prop 8. Again, we witnessed an eighteen point shift in favor of gay marriage in California in just eight years. We can move another four points. We just have to stay in the fight and remind ourselves and each other that we are winning.

The San Francisco Chronicle is reporting, via Twitter, that arrests have began of of non-violent protesters in San Francisco.

San Diego Pride is encouraging civil disobedience among those protesting in that city.

Day of Decision is coordinating protests across the nation. Go here to find your state/city.

Towleroad has more.

NYS Assemblywoman Joan Millman Responds To My Letter On Marriage Equality

May 13, 2009

joan millmanOn April 30, I wrote my representative in the New York State Assembly, Ms. Joan L. Millman, to request that she support marriage equality in New York State.  Today I received this response:

May 13, 2009

Dear Mr. ————:

I am writing in response to your correspondence requesting my support for A.7732/S.4401, legislation that would allow individuals to marry regardless of their sexual orientation, introduced by Assemblyman Daniel O’Donnell and Senator Thomas Duane.

I was proud to vote for the Marriage Equality Act when it came before the Assembly in 2007 and am equally as delighted to have been able to vote again last night for this necessary legislation.

As you are aware, there are more than 1300 allowable rights that accompany a marriage contract, rights that should be naturally available to couples without possessing a certificate of marriage. As we learned 55 years ago, separate is not always equal. It is my hope that this Act will pass the State Senate so that all who choose to may enjoy the rights and privileges associated with marriage, as sanctioned by the State of New York.

Thank you for your correspondence and sharing your views with me.


Joan L. Millman
Member of Assembly


Thank you for your vote Ms. Millman!

As I noted earlier, the Assembly passed the above bill 89-52. The date when this bill will be heard in the Senate – where the vote will be much closer – has not yet been determined.

As you may remember, I also wrote and received a favorable response from my State Senator, Velmanette Montgomery.

Find out who your New York State Senator is and write them now.